Monday, February 05, 2007

mom's the word

this is my mother -- yvonne patricia dow. beautiful isn't she? blue eyes, a soft heart, a devoted wife and passionate believer in Christ, who four years ago was struck with brain cancer.

there have been valleys and mountains... our faith has definitely been shaken and solidified. but God has been faithful. this past week, God has been pushing on my heart, to return home early and take care of her.

my father is a hard-working pastor and caretaker of my mother. this past month has been especially taxing, as she's lost the ability to speak, read or even dress herself. not every month is like this. in fact, tonight i had a conversation with her and it was delightful. we pray healing continues... but i cannot bear to watch my father 'bear' it alone any longer. this past week my spirit has been so heavy; i have battled insomnia and cried many tears.

it's a matter of choosing between husband and mother right now. i talked with my boss today, and she assured me that if i left at the beginning of May, i would not be breaching my contract. trent meanwhile would stay on here until august 19. our plan is to 'rendevous' at the end of july during his week-long holiday, somewhere in between korea and canada.

my father has agreed that i should come home. somewhere in the bible it says that if we do not take care of our family first, we 'repudiate' our faith. that is, we have no faith if we don't prioritize and put family first. the koreans are in full agreement with this concept, as demonstrated by the lack of homeless and the absence of nursing homes. familes take care of each other.

so, from may until august, i will be living with my parents in ontario and caring for my mother. i also plan to continue painting during that time (as my exhibit will be moving to Victoria, BC at the end of April) and freelancing.

please pray for us, for strength and vision, for determination and grace. and if you know of anyone wanting to teach english at the best ESL school in korea, give me a shout!

love em.

11 Comments:

Blogger .a. said...

Hey Em!
I feel total joy inside myself as I read this -- I will continue to pray for you, I do think you made the right decision. I know it will be hard -- but God's got your back (as my friend Rachel told me recently).
I'm soooooo CRAZY PROUD of YOU for the art show in Victoria!!! YAY! And to think I have 2 originals (don't worry, I don't think I'll sell them on ebay) =) Have a wonderful week, keep finding joy in the little things, and keep painting!
Love you both =) A.

7:32 AM  
Blogger Ernest Dow said...

Hey Em..I've been blessed by your unselfishness already.
May the LORD BLESS YOU AND TRENT IN A BIG WAY FOR THIS STEP OF FAITH.
LOVE TO BOTH OF YOU FROM BOTH OF US:
mA & PA DOW

8:41 AM  
Blogger J Man said...

Taking care of your parents is the first commandment with a promise - long life. Em, if you honor the Lord by honoring your parents, He will make sure that you're around a long time to share His Love with many others.

God bless you and Yvonne.

9:13 AM  
Blogger Ryan & Melanie said...

em,
this is beautiful, and it warms my heart! The Lord will honor you for honoring your parents this way. My heart aches for your mom, and she is often in my prayers.

I am so proud of you and this decision that you are making. Go in peace.

way to go on the art show. I am proud of you. Keep sharing your talent with the world!!

love,Mel

12:40 PM  
Blogger Keith Dow said...

hey, Emily, this is quite a step of faith! obviously Trent is now part of the family as well, but as long as you have his blessing - I'm sure mom and dad will be blessed having you around. it's really as big a step of faith for Trent as it is for you.

12:44 PM  
Blogger Billy said...

Oh Em. It takes a strong woman to make a decision like that. It takes a strong man to let you go. I hope that you will find peace when you return. You and Trent are in my thoughts often. Sounds crazy, but you both have had a positive influence in my life, and we have never even met. Travel safely. I will be looking forward to seeing your beautiful paintings.

9:19 PM  
Blogger anomi said...

Hey Em
It was lovely to read this, and for what it's worth I feel it's the right decision. Travel and adventures will always be there for you, as will Trent! I'll be sad to see you go, but it's right to look after your mum. I wish both of you all the best.
Naomi xox

10:00 PM  
Blogger Unknown said...

Hey Em and Trent~

Long time no read blogs and anything else. I feel like I've been missing a part of you.

Decisions are difficult. I trust this because it seems like you've been led to do it. Your sacrifice is touching and beautiful. I know your mom will be blessed by your love and precence. I hope my sister, I can be there for you as you are there for your mom.

take care my dear friend.

Love you,

Sacha

1:43 AM  
Blogger Jelly Beans Gurl said...

Em, I'm sorry that you even have to make a hard decision like this. But I agree, you made the right one. You and Trent are always in our thoughts and prayers. It will be hard to be apart, but it will go by faster than you can imagine.
Congrats on your art show in BC! That is crazy exciting.
We miss you both! Love you.

5:37 AM  
Blogger Rachel said...

she's beautiful, em! I trust that God will be with you as your life changes...

Rachel

9:14 AM  
Blogger ~Heidi 8) ~ said...

Hey Em,
Ah i'm sad to hear that your mom's health has been getting worse :( I will be praying for you all for healing and strength b/c its not easy for anyone when trials like this come upon us!
I'm glad you are going to be able to go home early..its so hard to help from so far :( i know!
love ya
Heidi 8)

8:18 PM  

Post a Comment

<< Home